This is a biggie. Conflict is something we all have to deal with at some point, and it sucks. Most of us have certain people in our life that we rub up against, it could be a friend, family member, partner (or ex-partner) or even your child.
What is important first of all is determining what level of conflict you are dealing with. Low level disagreements can be very frustrating but a little conflict is normal. If you have on-going problems with someone that are causing you stress then you need to find a solution.
Do you need to have a sit down with the other person and have a serious conversation, maybe with someone else present as well? Sometimes just verbalising your frustration can help both of you to find a solution. Try and be patient, fair and reasonable and the other person might respond the same way. Communication is so important. So many conflicts are the result of misunderstandings or unresolved feelings.
You could discuss the situation with someone who is not too close to the conflict. They may have new ideas that you might not have thought of. Sometimes time away and space is necessary too. I know its a well used line but you can only control yourself. If you are getting angry a lot or knowingly starting arguments you need to address this, or if you are the type who just gets upset or is unable to express what you are really feeling then have a think about that.
If the other person is not interested in seriously improving the situation then you may need to keep some distance between you long term.
Look after yourselves guys :)
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